Thursday, 10 April 2014
In desperate need of motivation
I don't know if I am the only one who suffers from fatigue as the year goes by. When the year began, I was full of energy, had plans and procedures I followed to do my duties productively both at work and at home. I was going well, woke up early, prepared the night before but then my scale of energy dropped. I am now dragging to do things. I need some kind of help to get back to where I was earlier in the year. It is really not helping, sulking and complaining about being tired and lacking motivation. I know I need to do things and if I don't I suffer the consequences...that's the only motivation I have to do most of the things. But what am i to do when I feel so fatigued? I really am in need of motivation. Paballo is in desperate need of motivation.
Wednesday, 9 April 2014
Luck or hard work?
Xolani & I...beer on our hands...celebrating our jobs...did we get the jobs by hard work or luck? |
My colleague and I had a nice debate about people’s
achievements and how they get to the point where they can afford things such as
houses, cars and other staff. He said it’s all about luck and I said its hard
work. We both agreed though that for one to achieve something, one needs to
move from one point to another. I made an example about both our lives. He
started doing some maintenance jobs and is now doing signage jobs and studying to better his
life. He decided to move from point A to B and all in the name of hard work. It
wasn’t luck but mere hard work; although he wishes to win the lottery one day…I
hope he gets lucky. As for me, I was lazy in high school! Had I not been lazy
at that time I would have went straight to University and maybe became a
Radiographer as I always wanted but I didn’t. I realised that I was brilliant when
I went to college and knew that my family would depend on me once I was done with
my studies, therefore I was always motivated to be the best. I passed with distinctions
and those who went with me to college know that I worked very hard. Like Xolani,
I too was working hard to change the situation I had at the time.
Xolani & I at the Avon Justine Walk...finishing the race, was it hard work or luck? |
So, the big question was why other people remain the same
when others achieve so much. I concluded by saying it’s all about hard work.
Some people come from nowhere and end up somewhere because they chose to work
hard at getting there. Some people have brilliant minds but are waiting for
something to come to them instead of them going to get it. Xolani said, some
people are just lucky in life and it’s true but he believes that the only time
a situation could change is when a situation says, “Hi I have come to rescue
you.” Like when he’ll win the lottery…one day and then do certain staff. I don’t
believe in that, if I want something I go get. If it has come then yay!
It’s a difficult debate to engage in because we ended up
agreeing to certain staff and then disagreeing…so, I guess it’s a two way
thing, some are just lucky in life and others work very hard to get to where
they want to.
Tuesday, 8 April 2014
Monday, 7 April 2014
What makes this man different?
Sybil...a lady with 13 personalities. |
I was watching the movie Sybil. it’s about a woman who
discovered she has at least 13 different personalities. She is basically
insane, mentally disturbed. I then did some self-examination and concluded that
I too have some personalities but the difference between Sybil and I is that I know
of them and she didn’t. I think all of us have multiple personalities but don’t
fall under the insanity branch. We react to different situations in different
ways, meaning we don’t approach life the same way we did yesterday. We can cry
now and then laugh seconds after that. We have the ability to change
personalities just like that. The insane are similar to the sane; the
difference is that the other group sees the others as insane.
Mafinzo with his green facial paint |
Something triggered my mind from then. I am fascinated by mentally
disturbed people, although I have agateophobia. Agateophobia is the fear of insane
people. I would like to learn more on how they operate but I wouldn’t want to
be in close contact with them. I am in a situation I can’t explain. I feel like
they could do something bad to me and I can’t do anything about it because in
their minds it’s possible that they’d think that what they were doing was sane
and saw me as insane. What we deem as insane could be what they believe to be
sane.
Mafinzo with Silver facial paint |
Most people from Kagiso know Mafinzo and we know him as the
colourful insane citizen of our township. Mafinzo is a little different from us
….well maybe not a little different but more depending on how one sees him. He
is regarded as crazy by the “normal” community, mostly because he wears
differently and is fond of paint. He paints his head or face matching his shoes
that look like they have a ball on top. His colours coordinate; the colour he
paints on his head is the same colour he’ll paint on his shoes. His clothes are
colourful and look like he enjoys the attention he gets when he walks on the
streets. If you can have a conversation with him you can never tell whether he
is insane or if he’s just playing with people, but then again he has been like
this for years. Most of us like colour but we won’t do what he does because in
our eyes, he is crazy. His “style or personality” is seen through colour. This
if we put it in reality is what we call colour blocking. Everyone does it…He is
passionate about colour and everyone who knows him will describe him as a
colourful being.
Mafinzo with white facial paint |
I have also noticed that he talks to himself but that does
no longer fit into the category of insanity. Most of us have found ourselves
talking alone and immediately switching to a song when we realise that someone
has seen us. I guess we the ‘sane people’ have similarities with ‘insane people’
we are just good at hiding it. But then
again, I guess insane people don’t switch their self-conversations with songs
because in their world what they do is normal.
Colour blocking Mafinzo |
So, what if we are all crazy but have not been diagnosed?
What if insanity is the ultimate stage of freedom and we don’t know it? If I didn’t
have fear of ‘insane’ people I’d probably be able to answer those questions by
engaging with them. The main reason I am fascinated about them is that they do
what they please and will never be questioned. Maybe for us (the ‘sane’) to achieve
most things in life is to be like the ‘insane’. Live life freely, do what we want to do
and don’t let anyone come between us and our goals. Who knows insanity might be
the new sanity.
Colour blocking facial paint. |
Saturday, 5 April 2014
First tattoo -exciting times!
It has always crossed my mind to get a tattoo but I couldn't get it because of fear of the unknown. My friend and I finally decided to get them after a long time of doubt. I was lucky to have had options when I went to the tattoo shop. The one I initially had in mind turned out to bore me and I went for the one I did. The sound of the machine just scared the hell out of me but I was never going to change my mind. It was one of the best experiences of my life...I'll probably do more...we'll see.
My friend Kefilwe Moadi did a cute dove on her wrist and I did a ribbon on my back. The dove symbolizes her late brother Khutso meaning peace...she is in a state of peace and did the tattoo in remembrance of him. Well as for me my ribbon symbolizes a lot of things but the one thing i want to share is that I've realized that I can't treasure my achievements in a box but the ribbon on my back is something that will represent the sealing of every achievement in a treasury box (my heart).
If it was possible I would tie them all and put them in a sacred place with beautiful glowing ribbons but I can't, so I've decided to have this as an alternative. I've achieved and I am on a journey to achieve more, therefore I have a sacred place stored with beautiful wrapped achievements that are yet to be discovered. Something has been ticked of my bucket list, this too shall be sealed with a beautiful ribbon and be stored. Such is life :-) and should be lived.
If it was possible I would tie them all and put them in a sacred place with beautiful glowing ribbons but I can't, so I've decided to have this as an alternative. I've achieved and I am on a journey to achieve more, therefore I have a sacred place stored with beautiful wrapped achievements that are yet to be discovered. Something has been ticked of my bucket list, this too shall be sealed with a beautiful ribbon and be stored. Such is life :-) and should be lived.
Friday, 4 April 2014
I too hate rats!
Bloody Rat must have been saying, "Catch me if you can sucker!" |
I’ve always wondered why people hated rats so much until I had
my own experience last night. I got home from work and a rat had entered my
room leaving traces of its journey everywhere. It ate my kid’s snacks and I was
left in disbelieve. Having made peace with the whole idea of a rat eating my
child’s food, I slept only to be wakened up by an irritating chowing sound and
yes you’ve guessed it, it was that little rat eating something in my wardrobe. I was too afraid to approach it. I removed
some of the things that were possible ‘prey’ to the ‘predator rat’. As I closed
the wardrobe it started again! My dad didn’t even entertain the situation. He
probably has musophobia and wished I didn’t ask him to intervene and luckily
for him I didn’t. I slept anyway after a long session of frustrating chowing
sounds. I guess I’ll deal with the matter during the weekend. There goes my
hatred for rats…mxm borex!
Wednesday, 19 February 2014
Kgololosego's Birthday
Today is a special day to me, particularly because it is Kgololosego's birthday. I met him when i was still in my teens and i look at him now and realise that we have come far as a young couple. I pray that we go even further.
I sent him a special message at 12:00 am and he replied immediately, of course he was awake...i guess it happens to a lot of us on our birthday. We wait for the first message at 12:00 o'clock shap, then we'll see the others when we wake up in the morning. My nephew sang for him just before he left for school. I sent him a present at his work place but it hasn't been delivered yet. We will have a cake and party packs (Hlogi's request) later when i knock off from work. It is just going to be me, Bokamoso and Hlogi. I think we have executed everything well, except for the delivery thing, we'll just have to wait and see.
I think every birthday needs a celebration even though the person is not there in person to celebrate it with us. This day is special because, even though Kgolo is far from us the vibe is there and we have a perfect excuse to eat cake!
I just wrote this as a safe keeping page of the image i made for him on this day. He loves it and i am happy. Happy Birthday Kgololosego Phiri, we love you!
Hlogi, Bokamoso & me (Paballo) |
I think every birthday needs a celebration even though the person is not there in person to celebrate it with us. This day is special because, even though Kgolo is far from us the vibe is there and we have a perfect excuse to eat cake!
The image i made for him. The Legend in the making. |
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