Phenomenal Woman - Maya Angelou

Phenomenal Woman

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I'm not cute or built to suit a fashion model's size 
But when I start to tell them,
They think I'm telling lies.
I say,
It's in the reach of my arms,
The span of my hips, 
The stride of my step, 
The curl of my lips. 
I'm a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman, 
That's me.

I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please, 
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees. 
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees. 
I say,
It's the fire in my eyes, 
And the flash of my teeth, 
The swing in my waist, 
And the joy in my feet. 
I'm a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.

Men themselves have wondered 
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can't touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them, 
They say they still can't see. 
I say,
It's in the arch of my back, 
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I'm a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.

Now you understand
Just why my head's not bowed. 
I don't shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud. 
When you see me passing,
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It's in the click of my heels, 
The bend of my hair, 
The palm of my hand, 
The need for my care. 
'Cause I'm a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.
—Maya Angelou

How to Know When You've Found Your Purpose in Life

I love listening to Oprah while working and today was no different. I was listening to a conference she had and she was there to inspire young people who are still searching for meaning in their lives. As someone who knows what she wants I sometimes fear the things I think about...I wonder how I am going to handle all of them but people like Oprah Winfrey just give one hope. Its like they are standing right next to you, saying..."You can do it." So, as I was watching this inspirational video she shares a story of a woman she had an interview with and the lady said, "When you betray yourself, you are no different to the person that hurt you." I was like wow! We need these words in our lives. Sometimes we blame people for our own betrayals.

I am Paballo Seipei, today I was just mind opened by Oprah's talk.

Gratitude is the way of life

Kgololoseo Phiri & Paballo Seipei

I just experienced a life enhancing experience. I had a conversation with my boyfriend about the future. And two days before this conversation I downloaded Oprah Winfrey’s lecture at Standford University which talks about spirituality, love and fulfilment. In this lecture she makes the students meditate and I also meditated. The thing that was meditated upon was life and the power within us. It was a meditation about the gratitude of life. Being grateful for every breath we take, being grateful for every experience and being grateful for an opportunity to change for the better.  As I was typing this, she was playing in the background and she was saying, “I have chosen love.” I typed it because what she was saying was what my boyfriend and I were talking about. We both chose love. Then I heard, “The kind of love that counts.” This love we have counts. This love says “I am here for you no matter what.” I suddenly realised that God was speaking to me through that lecture. I had an “Aha moment” thereafter. Downloading this lecture was like a preparation for the future, the future that my boyfriend and I talk about lately. God spoke to me and I listened. God is love and we chose love. That was the reason why that video found me.

The message I was left with was: “To master the power of your field you must consistently chose love, live in the space of gratitude and know that the power you feel from time to time comes from a source that is greater than yourself.”

I am Paballo Seipei and I believe in the supernatural power within me. Thank you God. 

Insecurity is not attractive

I'd like to think that I am one of the strongest people I know. However, I'd also like to think that i'm one of the craziest people I know. I've discovered lately that I've got two personalities that are very opposite to one another. The one that people know me with is very optimistic, sweet, loud, happy and charismatic while the other one is evil, investigative, insecure, and crazy...literally crazy. I don't portray that side me of me unless if someone has done something bad to me and I want to be spiteful and avenge. Andsometimes it appears from nowhere. I'm still trying to figure it out although its something I never want to face. I'm also possessive, territorial and I want everything for myself. I've seen people like those and never thought I had that in me. Idon't like them but I somehow fallinto that category. Anyways, I realised that my insecurities cloud my judgement, I react too quickly at times and I end up doing the wrong things. I end up being wrong. I don't want to be that person, Somehow i feel like it's the devil trying to build a home in me. I'm achild of God and I know these things happen when the devil wants to try people who fall on God's side and not his. I don't know how to explain this but someone who's seen that part of me said that I was insecure and that insecurity is not attractive. I'm just writing this as some kind of therapy. I don't have a storyline or motive this time.This is just me concerned about myself.

I am Paballo Seipei and today I just want to share even through it doesn't make sense.

Bokamoso and Mama's priceless bond.

My mom and son are not best of friends. In fact they don't get along when my dad is around but I've got to say they are the best of friends when they watch tv together without my dad's presence. I was sitting in my bedroom and when it was time for me to wash the dishes I had the privilege to listen to their conversation. My mom is the most sweetest and patient person I know and I happen to enjoy that side of her when she's chilling with my son. They were watching a movie and she was explaining everything that was happening to him. I don't think I have that patience and I respect her for that.

I'm just writing this blog to express the joy I have to have been blessed with parents who've parented my son since day one. I can't stop laughing listening to them. I laugh because I know she enjoys her time with him now that my dad is sleeping otherwise he (my son) would been bonding with his BFF Pawe (my dad). It's a little family feud that gets me mad at times but I love it because I'm glad my parents have their share of spending time with him and both enjoy it. I also love how they fight over him and how my son always take Pawe's side. He's loyal to him and so is Pawe to him. I'm just happy that my mom gets her shining moments at times like these. That melts my heart. 

I am Paballo Seipei and today I enjoyed the conversation I heard between my mom and son. 

Marriage rules to live by:

The faces we'll give when one does something wrong

Dear Kgololosego (my future husband) here are the rules we need to live by when we get married.

1.       Put God first before everything.

Whoever loses faith in God must tithe for both partners at church until she/he awakens from the “prison of lost hope”

2.       Arguments are not doors for escaping.

No argument can make us feel like we don’t belong together. Couples fight all the time but the one that lasts is that which has both parties working hard for.

3.       There’s no “I’m tired” in love making

If one partner doesn’t want to make love due to being “tired” she/he should pay a R2000 fine to the other partner.

4.       We must celebrate our anniversary every year at a new place.

We should book double trips outside South Africa in a year if we don’t celebrate our anniversary.

5.       We don’t stop making love

Sex doesn’t have to stop as we grow older. If yours doesn’t wake up we buy Viagra and if mine doesn’t get wet we buy Lub.

6.       No one is a slave

We share chores until the kids are old enough to take over. Should any partner enslave the other, then 50 % of their assets should be shared with the other.

7.       No cheating!

Not open for discussion.

8.       No use of family money unnecessarily

Failure to comply simply means the partner who used the money shall not get pocket money until the money used is paid out. 

AKA is as much to blame as Bonang is

This whole Bonang, AKA affair has left me disturbed and I believe everyone else is shocked about it but let's be honest here, Bonang didn't do this on her own. AKA is as equally wrong as she is. I don't see anyone saying anything about him. We know he can diss but hey he deserved the diss as much as Bonang does. It takes two to tango and according to my understanding he was honest about the affair to Dj Zinhle, so why not say he's a Mitch? He did this willingly, didn't he? It would be a different story if she drugged him or stole him forcefully but she didn't. This has been going on for months, which means he was ready to take anything coming his way. Maybe it's time to deal with both parties instead of putting the blame to only women. We are too scared to confront the men but too quick to do it to women. If Bonang is a "sefebe" as Tweeps describe her, then so is AKA. 

I understand that Bonang is a woman and she's lashed out because she betrayed the female specie. Women are supposed to support each other and stop these things from happening right? But we don't, we fight among each other and leave the men victorious. They can do it repeatedly because we allow them to. This is so bad for her because she is in the public eye but these things happen to many of us and we are too quick to blame the women and make the men heroes.  Why is Bonang carrying all this when AKA also contributed to it? It doesn't make sense and It's not fair to call her names and pretend AKA didn't do anything. I'm so disappointed at her but more so on AKA because he was willing and broke the heart of his baby mama. 

I just pray that we don't always focus on one person when something was done by two people, willingly. Let's learn to not always go to the women but start with the men and maybe, just maybe that will make a difference. 

I am Paballo Seipei and today I refuse to be bias.