I'm guilty of judgement

I spent the past weekend with my fellow sisters in Christ at a conference in Amathole. I was happy and learned a lot! I enjoyed every moment of that trip, minor challenges and lots of highlights. I just wanted to share a story that was a bit of a lesson and wake up call to me. The theme is: "Do not laugh at someone when you don't know their background."

Fellow sister in Christ_Uniting Presbyterian Church in Southern Africa

I took a selfie with this lovely woman after I judged and laughed at her. I felt bad about it, so I couldn't go to her and say, "Hey I laughed at you, I'm sorry bluh bluh bluh." But I prayed to God for forgiveness and took a picture as way of erasing the guilt in me. 

The story began when I  didn't understand why she was in a young women's fellowship when there's one that caters for people her age...She is old and maintains that she's a young woman. I laughed when a Reverend referred to her as "mama" and she corrected him and said, "sisi". I laughed because I thought, "Why doesn't she realise that she's old and just move on with life?" She sat like an old woman,  danced like an old woman and had manners of an old woman but she felt that she was young. 

Uniting Presbyterian  Junior Branch of Women at Work

One of the ladies I sat with spoke to the other about her. This lady knew her story. She shared that "Sisi" was mentally disturbed. She used to be a teacher but lost it. After hearing that story, I beat myself up. I began to see her in another way. I realised that I didn't have to laugh at her but I did and I usually laugh at people a lot. I know its not good because we don't know what might happen to us later in life. I was wrong for judging her and when I asked her why she didn't join the old women's fellowship she said she had a mother and that meant she was a junior. "case closed." I thought. Who am I to judge?

Sisters in Christ

I just hope God forgives me and many of us who laugh at people when we don't know their  backgrounds. Its good to laugh but can be bad when it affects the one laughed at. 

I'm Paballo Seipei. I learned to laugh in moderation. I hope I maintain and not forget. 

We are one with God and one with one another! 

In need of a publisher for my book - Cryptic Love Affair

I wrote my first book last year called Cryptic Love Affair. Yay!! The first title was "How I became a bitch" lol I know, the title sounds cheesy right? Well, I came out with a better one. I trust this one. I was meant to publish it this month but it doesn't look like its gona happen unless if a miracle happens. I pray for that miracle!

The idea came one evening when I was watching this movie, I can't remember what it was and I thought, "I could've ended it like this..." So,  I just started writing and couldn't stop. I finished the book but I've been quite lazy to raise the funds to publish it. Maybe i'm not serious or maybe I need a potential sponsor to push me in the right direction, I don't know. I haven't blogged in a while and I thought, "Let me introduce my baby to the world!"

I am Paballo Seipei, I wrote a book and I'm in need of a sponsor. #CrypticLoveAffair

Ten things you need to know about Bricks Mabrigado

Bricks on the hot seat! Sorry for the poor quality of the picture. 

Zaziwa has taught us to learn people through their musical journey. Yesterday Pearl Modiadie interviewed "Bricks", who comes from Zola and loves the place very much. Through their conversation, I jotted the ten things to know about Him: 

1. His real name is Sipho Ndlovu.

2.  Brick says his mother didn't give him all the luxuries in life but the only thing he holds dearly from her teachings is respect. His mother taught him respect and he says "people love people who respect." He's glad his mother taught him the one thing that can't be taken from him. 

3. Bricks never met his father but he met his father's family only last her when they approached him during his court case. He says they taught him about his culture and where he comes from.

4. He wants to be remembered as someone who makes other people happy.

5. The one thing he's proud of is being a good father to his two kids. 

6. He doesn't want to talk about his relationship with Elle because they've both moved on."hai phuma kim." He said to Pearl when brushing the topic off. 

7. He makes good friends with women. "The media said I had a lot of girlfriends but I have a lot of lady friends." 

8. He dedicated his love life to a song by jagged Edge, "Let's get married." the song makes him think of the type of person he is when it comes to love. "I wish I could say these words to someone one day." He said. 

9. A song that he wants to be remembered with is Kholwa by Slikour ft Relo and Thokoza Youth Choir. He also wants to do something like this one day. 

10. He loves Zola and is very proud of it and its people. 

The one phrase we'll remember Bricks with is "he bafethu ng'cela a ma flat lapho nithi tjovitjo!" 

Pearl Modiadie and Bricks

Black-on-black Murder? What happened to Ubuntu?

Xenophobia...Where does one start when it comes to this topic? 

Perhaps I should start by it's definition, "Dislike of or prejudice against people from other countries."

So, when people get the news they won't say "certain South Africans killed foreigners", but they will say "South Africans killed foreigners." What does that say about us?

We  are facing a sad time, because some people feel they have ownership of this country and that others don't deserve residence in it. What are we forgetting? Where does this hatred come from? How do we burn other people and smile about it? What happened to power to the people? What happened to Africanism? What happened to helping one another?

It looks like this blog will be filled with questions because this situation is confusing, its disturbing and it's crazy! We are a crazy society and if we are not careful this will turn into South Africans killing one another because of their different cultures.  If we can do it to our African brothers and sisters, then we can do it among ourselves right?

We are forgetting that we were once in exile and our dear African brothers and sisters took us in their countries with open arms and fought with us against apartheid but today we don't want to do the same for them.

We forget that we are not educated or clever enough to manage our businesses and feel jealous when our African brothers and sisters do what we could have been doing but failed to. We are so stupid to forget that we engage in foreign businesses and that we are killing the friendship we have with them.

We forget that life is unpredictable and that this wheel might turn against us one day. The illiterate and uneducated people who support xenophobia (in its every form) don't see what they are doing for the future generation of this country. One day our children will go to foreign countries and they'll be brutally killed because of our ignorant behaviour.

I hate what we've become as a nation. We forget that we are all Africans and that we think we are better than the others which is not the case. The devil is playing with us and he loves it! People need to be educated, especially those in the townships who support this and see it as an activity to push their miserable lives. We are starting a war that we'll struggle to stop.


I am Paballo Seipei and I say NO to Xenophobia.

What is Paballo's calling?

Now and then I battle with what i'm called to do in life. I get lazy when I have to do my work and I know it pays my bills but I feel demotivated half the time. I feel like there's something deeper that I need to discover but not sure what. I feel lost sometimes because I know I'm bigger than what I am now and will achieve greater...Questions are when? What to do? Where to start?

I know that finding a calling comes in different ways to different people. The one thing I know for sure is that everything we do leads us to our calling I'm just waiting to discover mine. I guess I'll keep motivating myself now and then when things seem senseless. I'm not the only one but I'm half way through to discovery.

I am Paballo Seipei, I'm still waiting to find out what I'm called to do. What is your calling?

Proud BOSASA Parents!

Today is a great day at BOSASA!

I went to the IT Department to get a Laptop charger, on my way back to the office I see a female Springbok walking like something was about to pop out of the...you know. So,I pay attention and realise that it's about to give birth. I get excited, rush to the office to get my Ipad and tell my colleagues "we are about to get a baby" and rush back to the "hospital". We waited and waited for the baby to come out but it didn't. Every time she was about to pop someone would pass innocently and disturb it, so Jerome (the father) and I gave up and went back to the office.

This is what i saw when I realised that I was about to become a mom lol

While we contemplated on getting back to work, our house keeper Jane comes running to the office, "The baby is coming" she said. I call Jerome "Jerome we are about to have a baby." Jerome comes running,  we take our gadgets and rush back to the "hospital" As soon as we get there, we see that the baby is half way through, we get excited and take some videos. We waited for a few minutes and a guy innocently passes through the "labour ward", the mother Springbok stands up and voilà the baby falls on the ground!! 

"Congratulations Jerome! What are we calling it?" I asked. Mpho, our colleague suggested, "Jerome Junior West." and everyone started laughing.

Newly born baby! Welcome Junior!

We then waited for the baby to take it's first step and it eventually did! #Proud_Moment

 

Jerome Junior West taking his first step

Daddy Bok got excited and started initiating another baby but Mommy Bok said, "No it's too soon dear." But he didn't listen, he kept going for it, shame..Haha 
 

"I know it's too soon but i want more kids."-Daddy Bok

We witnessed the beauty of nature today and I was proud to be part of this great event. I've never seen anything like this before and I loved the experience. 

I am Paballo Seipei, today I'm a proud mother of Jerome Junior West. 

Jerome and I are the proud parents of Jerome Junior West

Inspiration from a Facebook Post

I lost something that wasn't mine and I felt so heart broken when I realised that I counted my chickens before they were hatched. I guess I thought over about how life would be if I got it, got over excited and fantasised a lot. 

Lovely Miss Paballo Seipei learned something new today.

"Life would be great" I thought. I had big plans but they went down the drain because I wasn't prepared. I told myself that it was another lesson learned. "I need to prepare and sharpen my skills for such things,"I concluded .

I then went through Facebook to browse around and came across this quote from Nonkululeko Nomga saying, "Whatever you go through in life, grows you. The lessons that life gives you are blessings in disguise because they grow you and make you wiser, smarter and tougher." I felt relieved, I needed that confirmation.  I needed to hear/see those words because what happened today was not a failure but a lesson. Thank you Nono.

I am Paballo Seipei, today I learnt to grow wiser.