Marriage rules to live by:

The faces we'll give when one does something wrong

Dear Kgololosego (my future husband) here are the rules we need to live by when we get married.

1.       Put God first before everything.

Whoever loses faith in God must tithe for both partners at church until she/he awakens from the “prison of lost hope”

2.       Arguments are not doors for escaping.

No argument can make us feel like we don’t belong together. Couples fight all the time but the one that lasts is that which has both parties working hard for.

3.       There’s no “I’m tired” in love making

If one partner doesn’t want to make love due to being “tired” she/he should pay a R2000 fine to the other partner.

4.       We must celebrate our anniversary every year at a new place.

We should book double trips outside South Africa in a year if we don’t celebrate our anniversary.

5.       We don’t stop making love

Sex doesn’t have to stop as we grow older. If yours doesn’t wake up we buy Viagra and if mine doesn’t get wet we buy Lub.

6.       No one is a slave

We share chores until the kids are old enough to take over. Should any partner enslave the other, then 50 % of their assets should be shared with the other.

7.       No cheating!

Not open for discussion.

8.       No use of family money unnecessarily

Failure to comply simply means the partner who used the money shall not get pocket money until the money used is paid out. 

AKA is as much to blame as Bonang is

This whole Bonang, AKA affair has left me disturbed and I believe everyone else is shocked about it but let's be honest here, Bonang didn't do this on her own. AKA is as equally wrong as she is. I don't see anyone saying anything about him. We know he can diss but hey he deserved the diss as much as Bonang does. It takes two to tango and according to my understanding he was honest about the affair to Dj Zinhle, so why not say he's a Mitch? He did this willingly, didn't he? It would be a different story if she drugged him or stole him forcefully but she didn't. This has been going on for months, which means he was ready to take anything coming his way. Maybe it's time to deal with both parties instead of putting the blame to only women. We are too scared to confront the men but too quick to do it to women. If Bonang is a "sefebe" as Tweeps describe her, then so is AKA. 

I understand that Bonang is a woman and she's lashed out because she betrayed the female specie. Women are supposed to support each other and stop these things from happening right? But we don't, we fight among each other and leave the men victorious. They can do it repeatedly because we allow them to. This is so bad for her because she is in the public eye but these things happen to many of us and we are too quick to blame the women and make the men heroes.  Why is Bonang carrying all this when AKA also contributed to it? It doesn't make sense and It's not fair to call her names and pretend AKA didn't do anything. I'm so disappointed at her but more so on AKA because he was willing and broke the heart of his baby mama. 

I just pray that we don't always focus on one person when something was done by two people, willingly. Let's learn to not always go to the women but start with the men and maybe, just maybe that will make a difference. 

I am Paballo Seipei and today I refuse to be bias. 

Fak'ugesi African Digital Innovation

You choose the years you want to travel.

What if someone told you, you could travel in time? Would you believe them?
I kinda did last night at the Fak'ugesi African Digital Innovation "exhibition" held at Wits Museum.
We have seen movies about time travel, Next and Deja Vu being the first to pop on my mind but there are plenty of those kinds of movies. I'm sure you are thinking of your all time favourite time travel movie right now...

Kefilwe Moadi and Paballo Seipei

Anyways, my friend Kefilwe Moadi invited me to this future innovative technology showcase.  And the one thing that captured my attention was Jepchumba's "Future Selfie" technology system. This is a device that takes you to your future. You basically record a message to yourself in the future and you will get the message obviously in the future. You have an option of sending a message to yourself about Love or Place.

So, I managed to travel through time. I traveled  15 years from now while Kefilwe traveled  20 years. It only took a few seconds, which was sad because I have so much to tell my present self. I chose Love. Its my favourite thing to talk about. I love love and I just wanted to share that with my present self. Filwe managed to speak about both although she was hesitant to speak about love which was cute.

I have a lot to talk about but i don't wana bore you. The important thing is that i traveled through time and this experiment made me think of what I really want in the future. I realised that i needed a lot of things and I have plans i just need to see myself in  15 years time and see if everything was implemented.

Me recording a message to myself in the future.

Hi! I'm Paballo Seipei, I am a time traveler and I sent out my present self a message in my future Surname.  

Kefilwe  recording her message to herself in the future. 

This is one of the showcased technologies that i'll write about soon. 

Philosopher Paballo Seipei on Plants

I'm guilty of judgement

I spent the past weekend with my fellow sisters in Christ at a conference in Amathole. I was happy and learned a lot! I enjoyed every moment of that trip, minor challenges and lots of highlights. I just wanted to share a story that was a bit of a lesson and wake up call to me. The theme is: "Do not laugh at someone when you don't know their background."

Fellow sister in Christ_Uniting Presbyterian Church in Southern Africa

I took a selfie with this lovely woman after I judged and laughed at her. I felt bad about it, so I couldn't go to her and say, "Hey I laughed at you, I'm sorry bluh bluh bluh." But I prayed to God for forgiveness and took a picture as way of erasing the guilt in me. 

The story began when I  didn't understand why she was in a young women's fellowship when there's one that caters for people her age...She is old and maintains that she's a young woman. I laughed when a Reverend referred to her as "mama" and she corrected him and said, "sisi". I laughed because I thought, "Why doesn't she realise that she's old and just move on with life?" She sat like an old woman,  danced like an old woman and had manners of an old woman but she felt that she was young. 

Uniting Presbyterian  Junior Branch of Women at Work

One of the ladies I sat with spoke to the other about her. This lady knew her story. She shared that "Sisi" was mentally disturbed. She used to be a teacher but lost it. After hearing that story, I beat myself up. I began to see her in another way. I realised that I didn't have to laugh at her but I did and I usually laugh at people a lot. I know its not good because we don't know what might happen to us later in life. I was wrong for judging her and when I asked her why she didn't join the old women's fellowship she said she had a mother and that meant she was a junior. "case closed." I thought. Who am I to judge?

Sisters in Christ

I just hope God forgives me and many of us who laugh at people when we don't know their  backgrounds. Its good to laugh but can be bad when it affects the one laughed at. 

I'm Paballo Seipei. I learned to laugh in moderation. I hope I maintain and not forget. 

We are one with God and one with one another! 

In need of a publisher for my book - Cryptic Love Affair

I wrote my first book last year called Cryptic Love Affair. Yay!! The first title was "How I became a bitch" lol I know, the title sounds cheesy right? Well, I came out with a better one. I trust this one. I was meant to publish it this month but it doesn't look like its gona happen unless if a miracle happens. I pray for that miracle!

The idea came one evening when I was watching this movie, I can't remember what it was and I thought, "I could've ended it like this..." So,  I just started writing and couldn't stop. I finished the book but I've been quite lazy to raise the funds to publish it. Maybe i'm not serious or maybe I need a potential sponsor to push me in the right direction, I don't know. I haven't blogged in a while and I thought, "Let me introduce my baby to the world!"

I am Paballo Seipei, I wrote a book and I'm in need of a sponsor. #CrypticLoveAffair

Ten things you need to know about Bricks Mabrigado

Bricks on the hot seat! Sorry for the poor quality of the picture. 

Zaziwa has taught us to learn people through their musical journey. Yesterday Pearl Modiadie interviewed "Bricks", who comes from Zola and loves the place very much. Through their conversation, I jotted the ten things to know about Him: 

1. His real name is Sipho Ndlovu.

2.  Brick says his mother didn't give him all the luxuries in life but the only thing he holds dearly from her teachings is respect. His mother taught him respect and he says "people love people who respect." He's glad his mother taught him the one thing that can't be taken from him. 

3. Bricks never met his father but he met his father's family only last her when they approached him during his court case. He says they taught him about his culture and where he comes from.

4. He wants to be remembered as someone who makes other people happy.

5. The one thing he's proud of is being a good father to his two kids. 

6. He doesn't want to talk about his relationship with Elle because they've both moved on."hai phuma kim." He said to Pearl when brushing the topic off. 

7. He makes good friends with women. "The media said I had a lot of girlfriends but I have a lot of lady friends." 

8. He dedicated his love life to a song by jagged Edge, "Let's get married." the song makes him think of the type of person he is when it comes to love. "I wish I could say these words to someone one day." He said. 

9. A song that he wants to be remembered with is Kholwa by Slikour ft Relo and Thokoza Youth Choir. He also wants to do something like this one day. 

10. He loves Zola and is very proud of it and its people. 

The one phrase we'll remember Bricks with is "he bafethu ng'cela a ma flat lapho nithi tjovitjo!" 

Pearl Modiadie and Bricks

Black-on-black Murder? What happened to Ubuntu?

Xenophobia...Where does one start when it comes to this topic? 

Perhaps I should start by it's definition, "Dislike of or prejudice against people from other countries."

So, when people get the news they won't say "certain South Africans killed foreigners", but they will say "South Africans killed foreigners." What does that say about us?

We  are facing a sad time, because some people feel they have ownership of this country and that others don't deserve residence in it. What are we forgetting? Where does this hatred come from? How do we burn other people and smile about it? What happened to power to the people? What happened to Africanism? What happened to helping one another?

It looks like this blog will be filled with questions because this situation is confusing, its disturbing and it's crazy! We are a crazy society and if we are not careful this will turn into South Africans killing one another because of their different cultures.  If we can do it to our African brothers and sisters, then we can do it among ourselves right?

We are forgetting that we were once in exile and our dear African brothers and sisters took us in their countries with open arms and fought with us against apartheid but today we don't want to do the same for them.

We forget that we are not educated or clever enough to manage our businesses and feel jealous when our African brothers and sisters do what we could have been doing but failed to. We are so stupid to forget that we engage in foreign businesses and that we are killing the friendship we have with them.

We forget that life is unpredictable and that this wheel might turn against us one day. The illiterate and uneducated people who support xenophobia (in its every form) don't see what they are doing for the future generation of this country. One day our children will go to foreign countries and they'll be brutally killed because of our ignorant behaviour.

I hate what we've become as a nation. We forget that we are all Africans and that we think we are better than the others which is not the case. The devil is playing with us and he loves it! People need to be educated, especially those in the townships who support this and see it as an activity to push their miserable lives. We are starting a war that we'll struggle to stop.


I am Paballo Seipei and I say NO to Xenophobia.