Black-on-black Murder? What happened to Ubuntu?

Xenophobia...Where does one start when it comes to this topic? 

Perhaps I should start by it's definition, "Dislike of or prejudice against people from other countries."

So, when people get the news they won't say "certain South Africans killed foreigners", but they will say "South Africans killed foreigners." What does that say about us?

We  are facing a sad time, because some people feel they have ownership of this country and that others don't deserve residence in it. What are we forgetting? Where does this hatred come from? How do we burn other people and smile about it? What happened to power to the people? What happened to Africanism? What happened to helping one another?

It looks like this blog will be filled with questions because this situation is confusing, its disturbing and it's crazy! We are a crazy society and if we are not careful this will turn into South Africans killing one another because of their different cultures.  If we can do it to our African brothers and sisters, then we can do it among ourselves right?

We are forgetting that we were once in exile and our dear African brothers and sisters took us in their countries with open arms and fought with us against apartheid but today we don't want to do the same for them.

We forget that we are not educated or clever enough to manage our businesses and feel jealous when our African brothers and sisters do what we could have been doing but failed to. We are so stupid to forget that we engage in foreign businesses and that we are killing the friendship we have with them.

We forget that life is unpredictable and that this wheel might turn against us one day. The illiterate and uneducated people who support xenophobia (in its every form) don't see what they are doing for the future generation of this country. One day our children will go to foreign countries and they'll be brutally killed because of our ignorant behaviour.

I hate what we've become as a nation. We forget that we are all Africans and that we think we are better than the others which is not the case. The devil is playing with us and he loves it! People need to be educated, especially those in the townships who support this and see it as an activity to push their miserable lives. We are starting a war that we'll struggle to stop.


I am Paballo Seipei and I say NO to Xenophobia.

What is Paballo's calling?

Now and then I battle with what i'm called to do in life. I get lazy when I have to do my work and I know it pays my bills but I feel demotivated half the time. I feel like there's something deeper that I need to discover but not sure what. I feel lost sometimes because I know I'm bigger than what I am now and will achieve greater...Questions are when? What to do? Where to start?

I know that finding a calling comes in different ways to different people. The one thing I know for sure is that everything we do leads us to our calling I'm just waiting to discover mine. I guess I'll keep motivating myself now and then when things seem senseless. I'm not the only one but I'm half way through to discovery.

I am Paballo Seipei, I'm still waiting to find out what I'm called to do. What is your calling?

Proud BOSASA Parents!

Today is a great day at BOSASA!

I went to the IT Department to get a Laptop charger, on my way back to the office I see a female Springbok walking like something was about to pop out of the...you know. So,I pay attention and realise that it's about to give birth. I get excited, rush to the office to get my Ipad and tell my colleagues "we are about to get a baby" and rush back to the "hospital". We waited and waited for the baby to come out but it didn't. Every time she was about to pop someone would pass innocently and disturb it, so Jerome (the father) and I gave up and went back to the office.

This is what i saw when I realised that I was about to become a mom lol

While we contemplated on getting back to work, our house keeper Jane comes running to the office, "The baby is coming" she said. I call Jerome "Jerome we are about to have a baby." Jerome comes running,  we take our gadgets and rush back to the "hospital" As soon as we get there, we see that the baby is half way through, we get excited and take some videos. We waited for a few minutes and a guy innocently passes through the "labour ward", the mother Springbok stands up and voilà the baby falls on the ground!! 

"Congratulations Jerome! What are we calling it?" I asked. Mpho, our colleague suggested, "Jerome Junior West." and everyone started laughing.

Newly born baby! Welcome Junior!

We then waited for the baby to take it's first step and it eventually did! #Proud_Moment

 

Jerome Junior West taking his first step

Daddy Bok got excited and started initiating another baby but Mommy Bok said, "No it's too soon dear." But he didn't listen, he kept going for it, shame..Haha 
 

"I know it's too soon but i want more kids."-Daddy Bok

We witnessed the beauty of nature today and I was proud to be part of this great event. I've never seen anything like this before and I loved the experience. 

I am Paballo Seipei, today I'm a proud mother of Jerome Junior West. 

Jerome and I are the proud parents of Jerome Junior West

Inspiration from a Facebook Post

I lost something that wasn't mine and I felt so heart broken when I realised that I counted my chickens before they were hatched. I guess I thought over about how life would be if I got it, got over excited and fantasised a lot. 

Lovely Miss Paballo Seipei learned something new today.

"Life would be great" I thought. I had big plans but they went down the drain because I wasn't prepared. I told myself that it was another lesson learned. "I need to prepare and sharpen my skills for such things,"I concluded .

I then went through Facebook to browse around and came across this quote from Nonkululeko Nomga saying, "Whatever you go through in life, grows you. The lessons that life gives you are blessings in disguise because they grow you and make you wiser, smarter and tougher." I felt relieved, I needed that confirmation.  I needed to hear/see those words because what happened today was not a failure but a lesson. Thank you Nono.

I am Paballo Seipei, today I learnt to grow wiser. 

Mr and Mrs Lawana - Traditional Wedding

So, the week after my sister's wedding, her friend Hloyi got married! Isn't this great!! December should just be changed to Wedecember. The weddings during that time are a lot, my gosh!

Mr & Mrs Lawana!

Like most girls, I too love weddings and I had to go to this one. My sister went on a trip to Bela-Bela and I went on her behalf with her Husband. I was a standby wife for the day hahaha. The wedding was super intimate and fun.

My sister's husband with his standby wife.

Look who joined us! My brother Gift!

Lebo Sibande, my sister's best friend rocked up with her husband in their His & Her's Traditional outfits. We went with them to the wedding. It was a double date with an extra date, lol. They looked so beautiful!

Mr & Mrs Sibande looking oh so beautiful!

The team was ready to invade Hloyi's wedding!

The decor welcomed us!

Isn't this cute?!

The one thing that touched me about this wedding was the vows. It's a good feeling listening to people exchanging such beautiful words and yet emotional. I teared up with Hloyi as she expressed the love she has for her husband. She was soo cute.

The lovely couple!

The bridesmaids!

I wish Hloyi & Phuthuma many more years of love. May they enjoy each other to the fullest, make their marriage what they want it to be and always allow God to be their mediator.

After a long queue of "Picture with the bride" session, we finally conquered!

I am Paballo Seipei and I enjoyed the Lawana Wedding!

Mr & Mrs Nxumalo - Traditional Wedding

Happy New Year!!! I haven't blogged in a while and yet there's so much that has happened since the last time I did.

I guess I have to welcome the year with LOVE ...Look who got married in December!

Ntombi "Puna" Zikalala, Lebohang Nxumalo & Dineo Moerane.

 My sister Lebo got married!! Excitement, excitement & excitement! I was one of the bridesmaids and I loved it.

Excitement got me kissing my sister...It's better than catching a bouquet, I know I'm on the list of soon-be-married people...lol.

My son was one of the page boys, he was not as excited as mommy but was so cute!

There he is in front of me, where he was the whole day...Ain't he cute :)! And my funkhufunkhu Hlogi next to him!!

It was a traditional wedding that looked like a white wedding. It was so beautiful, everyone sang. We had two dances for when we got to my street where the tent was laid.  I just want to share with you the beauty that was portrayed on that day...Awesomeness!  I loved it so much, I might have the same thing...one day...just thinking....these things happen.

The lovely couple, Mr Lindani & Mrs Lebohang Nxumalo!

I just wish them great things in life. I remember our Minister saying, "When the wedding stops, marriage begins." I wish their marriage be as beautiful as their wedding.

And there's the dream team, the beautiful bridesmaids, groomsmen, page boys and a flower girl...oh and ofcourse the newlyweds!

We got home and did the street dance! We danced to Black Motion - Rainbow

The decor was everything!

Traditional wedding has never been this awesome!

His & her's traditional wedding chairs.

Then there was a  guest lounge!

The beauty of the guest lounge!

This green and white outfit was her present from the Husband's side. Beautiful!

Beautiful couple! The lady at the back with a white blanket (MaSme) is the one who made it.

The last dance of the night before we changed to our jeans and focus on the partying!

Look who decided to dance! Bokamoso Seipei!! He suddenly got excited.

And out of all the outfits, this remains my favourite!! Setswana Traditional attire Now this I goda wear!

It's a wrap! Alilililili!! Re ja ngwana!

I could post all the pictures but this is what I could share with you. I am Paballo Seipei, I was a bridesmaid and I drank to it! Cheers

Cheers!

A letter to my unborn baby

 I came across this letter I wrote to my son before giving birth. I was cleaning up my room and as i went through my papers, i saw it desperately waiting for me to read it. I just had to share it. Its nice to see the mental state i was in during my pregnancy. Although I liked crying, i was very passionate about my unborn baby. I still am.

Ncoooh, shame this letter. I wish i had finished it.

I am Paballo Seipei and I love being a mother.